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<pre style="background-color: white; color: #444444; font-family: 'Segoe UI', 'Segoe UI Web Regular', 'Segoe UI Symbol', 'Helvetica Neue', 'BBAlpha Sans', 'S60 Sans', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; white-space: normal;"><pre style="font-family: 'Segoe UI', 'Segoe UI Web Regular', 'Segoe UI Symbol', 'Helvetica Neue', 'BBAlpha Sans', 'S60 Sans', Arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal;">Part of a decent <b>Stress Management</b> set up merely involves distinguishing the areas of <b>stress </b>in somebody's life. Taking associate objective scrutinize circumstances and things which will appear unmanageable, may be a useful commencement in coping with
stress.
Once the aras that are inflicting the foremost stress are known, an inspiration to cut back the amount of stress created by every state of affairs will begin to be developed
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Often things that produce an outsized quantity of stress may be eliminated fully. For those <b>stressors</b> that can not be entirely eliminated, an inspiration to raised manage matters, so the quantity of stress created is diminished considerably
, is usually useful in relieving the general quantity of stress the person is feeling.
One of the foremost common sources of stress, for several individuals, is that the habit that they need of not setting healthy limits on the quantity of commitments they enter into.
Overextending oneself creates undue stress, and usually ends up in exhaustion, burn out, and inevitably, “failure” to meet several of ones obligations. This “failure” is usually perceived by the individual as a private “failure”, making feelings of guilt, shame and poor <b>self-esteem</b>; feelings that inevitably contribute to the quantity of stress the person experiences.
An individual United Nations agency includes a tendency to over-commit can also be driven by a want to “prove” themselves, or to “live up to” a particular normal that they need obligatory
upon themselves.
Having rigid concepts concerning “success” and “failure” and tightened an excessive amount of of oneself, contributes to the general stress within the person's life. repeatedly a private has such a deep worry of failure, or a desperate ought to “live up” that they refuse to line limits on their time, till health issues or different life events force them to try and do thus.
If a private includes a tough time creating necessary changes in their routine, or setting healthy limits for themselves, underlying causes of the behavior ought to be self-addressed. think about what constitutes “success” and “failure.” however will ones purpose of read be altered, to permit some relief from the “rigid taskmaster” of self?
What limits may be set comfortably? What obligations and commitments may be yield of? straightforward queries like these will go an extended manner toward serving to determine the sources of stress, and making an inspiration to cut back the affects of stress that stress an individual's life. </pre>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4530408514621058583.post-79353247043803242592014-06-17T13:44:00.000-07:002014-06-17T13:44:29.616-07:00Build Your self worth<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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* Negative Work setting - watch out for the "dog eat dog" theory wherever everybody is fighting simply to induce ahead. Competition is everywhere. make certain it's a good competition.
* different People's Behavior - gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders... of these forms of individuals can produce
awful feelings for you
* dynamic setting - Changes challenge our paradigms. amendment are going to be there forever you cannot avoid this one, however will learn to alter it.
* Past expertise - do not let pain transform worry. Treat every failure and mistake as a lesson.
* Negative perspective - do not wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the globe. In building shallowness, we tend to should find out how to form the simplest out of worst things.
* Identity - you have got your own identity. If your parent could be a failure, it does not signify you have got to be a failure yet. Learn from different people's expertise, thus you will ne'er got to encounter an equivalent mistakes.
You can't continuously avoid or maybe amendment a state of affairs. And you actually are not attending to have abundant luck dynamic an individual. You can, however, find out how to avoid such things and other people and deal effectively with those you cannot avoid.
Just swing the higher than recommendation into action in your life, you'll see your shallowness grab hold and begin
to climb. almost immediately, you'll instinctively begin to understand once a state of affairs is unhealthy for your shallowness. </pre>
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curse of nature.
The whole space of <b>psychopathy</b> is concerning losing a way of <b>freedom</b>. after we notice ourselves guaranteed to emotional problems with our life, that we have a tendency to cannot rid of ourselves of, we have a tendency to lose our freedom of thinking. This creates stress in our mind and our body bears the strength of it. This loss of <b>freedom</b> brings up a way of concern or a way of helplessness. each such feelings observe a way of insecurity. folks lose confidence in their own value. vanity becomes low. With lack of confidence and low vanity, comes poor decision-making. an individual suffers with of these conditions once suffering with a<b> psychopathy</b>. once a insane person goes to hunt facilitate - confidence, vanity and sense of<b> freedom</b> square measure already lost. rather than serving to the person become freelance, there's an inclination to create the person keen about medication.
Medication plays its role in dominant the condition or state of unwellness. It will nothing to enhance the standard
of life for good. to enhance their quality of life, the person has to take responsibility for his or her own well being. we have a tendency to sleep in a<b> free</b> society. the liberty to suffer is additionally one quite <b>freedom</b>. we have a tendency to even have the liberty to seem for answers to attenuate our suffering</pre>
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Art Therapy: Drawing, painting, and sculpting facilitate many folks to reconcile inner conflicts, unharness deeply pent-up emotions, and foster cognizance, still as personal growth. Some <b>psychological state</b> suppliers use art medical aid as each a diagnostic tool and as the simplest way to assist treat disorders like depression, abuse-related trauma, and psychosis. you'll be able to realize a expert in your space World Health Organization has received special coaching and certification in art medical aid.
Dance Movement Therapy: Some folks realize that their spirits soar once they let their feet fly. Others-particularly {those World Health Organization|those that|people who} like a lot of structure or who feel they need "two left feet"-gain an equivalent sense of unharness and inner peace from the japanese martial arts, like martial art
and t'ai chi. people who ar ill from physical, sexual, or emotional abuse might realize these techniques particularly useful for gaining a way of ease with their own bodies. The underlying premise to dance movement medical aid is that it will facilitate someone integrate the emotional, <b>physical, and psychological</b> feature aspects of "self."
Music/Sound Therapy: it's no coincidence that several folks activate soothing music to relax or stylish tunes to assist feel upbeat. analysis suggests that music stimulates the body's natural "feel good" chemicals (opiates and endorphins). This stimulation ends up in improved blood flow, force per unit area, pulse rate, breathing, and posture changes. Music or sound medical aid has been wont to treat disorders like stress, grief, depression, psychosis, and syndrome in youngsters, and to diagnose <b>psychological state</b> desires. </pre>
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<pre style="background-color: white; color: #444444; font-family: 'Segoe UI', 'Segoe UI Web Regular', 'Segoe UI Symbol', 'Helvetica Neue', 'BBAlpha Sans', 'S60 Sans', Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px; white-space: normal;"><pre style="font-family: 'Segoe UI', 'Segoe UI Web Regular', 'Segoe UI Symbol', 'Helvetica Neue', 'BBAlpha Sans', 'S60 Sans', Arial, sans-serif; white-space: normal;">We square measure told that mental sicknesses occur thanks to our genes, our upbringing, our temperament, our temperament, our mode and that we will do nothing concerning them. Stress or no stress, we tend to square measure told, if we've got of these factors loaded in our personal history, we tend to square measure liable to have a <b>mental state</b>. Some psychiatrists adhere to the present belief powerfully. This belief is then communicate because the "gospel truth" of science. Naturally, this brings up a way of low vanity and helplessness within the one who is suffering with the health problem. we tend to square measure then created to believe that medications square measure unreal answers to <b>mental state</b>, that could be a curse of nature.
The whole space of <b>mental state</b> is concerning losing a way of freedom. once we realize ourselves absolute to emotional problems with our life, that we tend to cannot free ourselves of, we tend to lose our freedom of thinking. This creates stress in our mind and our body bears the forcefulness of it. This loss of freedom brings up a way of concern or a way of helplessness. each such feelings observe a way of insecurity. folks lose confidence in their own value. vanity becomes low. With lack of confidence and low vanity, comes poor decision-making. an individual suffers with of these conditions once suffering with a mental state. once a unsound person goes to hunt facilitate - confidence, vanity and sense of freedom square measure already lost. rather than serving to the person become freelance, there's an inclination to create the person keen about medication.
Medication plays its role in dominant the condition or state of health problem. It will nothing to boost the standard of life for good. to boost their quality of life, the person must take responsibility for his or her own well being. we tend to sleep in a free society. the liberty to suffer is additionally one reasonably
freedom. we tend to even have the liberty to appear for answers to attenuate our suffering. </pre>
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seriously hampers his ability to stay to a routine, then
<b>homeschooling</b> is your best option. the kid are perpetually
under your direction. however
he are gaining lots of quality
education, in spite of his incapacity. this is often rather shocking,
considering however youngsters with disabilities square measure stigmatized in
public colleges.
Goal setting is a crucial a part of <b>homeschooling</b> a toddler with
disability. Set the quantity of operating
hours per week for the
child. a toddler with a <b>incapacity</b> might have his dangerous days. Structure
the learning hours in line with the wants and interests of the
child. Use the pc. This way, he can have all the
necessary data right at his fingertips whereas staying inside
the reach of his home.
Field journeys and different academic activities square measure even as
important. Get facilitate from your support cluster. Visit places of
interest and act with different youngsters within the cluster. Take your
child out for a few activities, so he will socialize. Let him
set his own pace with creating friends. this can facilitate in
strengthening his shallowness.
Above all, bear in mind that <b>homeschooling</b> is simply identical, even when
your kid suffers from a<b> incapacity</b>. you may simply have to be compelled to look
for the proper opportunities and therefore the best alternatives to
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Seventh grade is a stressful time in your life. Lots of kids out there are worried about their crush, personality, friends, grade, and the most popular of all; their looks. These steps can help you little or lots. It depends how willing you are to be more confident.
Remember that this isn't JUST for seventh graders, it's perfect for anyone who's in middle school.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li> You need to focus on the good things about your self. ex: I'm funny! or I have great skin! or I have beautiful eyes! etc. The best ways to do this is make a list! You can also think to yourself about it. Whether you're just about to go to sleep, or out on a walk.
</li><li> You need to go out and have fun! Hangout with some friends, a boyfriend/girlfriend, even hanging out with your family can help! Whoever, wherever, go out and have a great time. I prefer doing something crazy that you can look back on and laugh about it. (not too crazy) for ex: jumping into the lake at night, walking around Walmart with a bra on over your real clothes.
</li><li> Take care of you. For once, look in the mirror and care for yourself. Do extra things that'll make you feel better! If you're a girl, you can do a full on beauty day! If you're a guy, you can go and hang with the guys and learn new skate board tricks, or shoot some hoops!
</li><li> Feel relaxed. Take a bubble bath and turn on your favorite tunes, go out in the sun and tan, take a nap, peacefully swim in a pool, etc.
</li><li> Be healthy. Wash your face when you wake up and before you go to sleep. Eat more fruits and veggies! Drink some more water. A healthier you, is a happier you! Don't be a slob and eat junk food and be a couch potato. Be a hyper, fun, person!
</li><li> Get more friends! Try to start conversation with someone who you feel will be a good friend to you. Try to get GOOD friends though, friends that will have your back! If you have more dependable friends, it can really help you get back on you're feet!
</li><li> Lastly, don't ever forget the real you! Be yourself, not the person who seems perfect. If you try to be some you're not; you can loose everything you got and when you step back in reality, your self-confidence will be the lowest it has ever been.
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<ul><li>Outside activities can help! ex: clubs, sports, committees, lessons.
</li><li>For some, seventh grade is truly the worst year of their life. If you feel this way, be comforted by this: it will all be over soon.
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<ul><li>Don't be selfish.
</li><li>Stay out of trouble.
</li><li>Don't make friends with someone who will bring you down.
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<td align="center">We all have been in situations where you want to lie in order to appear better to people and the world. Somehow we like to cope with others' opinions and we are too scared to accept that we differ from others and we don't like same things as others. And what is worse is that by telling lies we damage our self esteem.<a href="http://selfesteem01.blogspot.com/2013/03/how-to-boost-your-self-esteem-by-being.html"> ...Read more</td></td>
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We all have been in situations where you want to lie in order to appear better to people and the world. Somehow we like to cope with others' opinions and we are too scared to accept that we differ from others and we don't like same things as others. And what is worse is that by telling lies we damage our self esteem. Here are some steps that you need to follow in order to boost your self-esteem and present yourself as who you are.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li>Accept who you really are - not what others expect from you. Being insecure leads you to say or do what others might expect of you. As a result you directly say no to your needs. You also put yourself in a low position just to have a confirmation from the others. But in that way they accept a fake version, not you. They accept a person who says yes to the others and no to her/his needs.
</li><li>Don't tell lies to make a better impression, not even white lies. In this world we all are humans but still we are unique in our own way. So whatever you say or do it doesn't have to match with others' expectations. Every time you say yes to a lie you say no to your true persona, and as a result that can damage your self-esteem.
</li><li>Stand up for yourself - did you know in high school that you deserved more than a C but you didn't do anything just to be like the others? This is exactly what you shouldn't do. Treat yourself with respect, and when someone accuses you don't just nod and smile but stand up for yourself. There is no better feeling when you realize that you actually did something to protect yourself, and of course to boost your self-esteem.
</li><li>Don't hide - explore the inner you - This is the most difficult journey that you can do, but once that you find the road to explore yourself, it is easier to go deeper into your inner soul. By knowing yourself your good and bad sides you will be happier and you will know how to deal with problems and people that are trying so hard to put you down.
</li><li> Accept the fact that you are not perfect - no one is. And the more you try to hide your flaws the more people will try to mention and try to hurt you. So instead just laugh and say that you are not good at making cookies, but then mention something that you are good at it. Remember honesty is the best policy when it comes to your self-esteem.
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<ul><li>Don't worry what other people might say about you, worry about how to do something that you really like and if you can afford it.
</li><li>Do something that will make you feel better.Listen to music,exercise, etc.
</li><li>Relax. That is the most important thing in order to feel comfortable in your own skin.
</li><li>During the day no matter how busy you are, try to spend time with yourself to find out more about you. Take a paper and pencil if needed and see what your insecurities are and what you can do to overcome those.
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<a name="Warnings"></a><h2> Warnings </h2>
<ul><li>By being honest doesn't mean that you have to share all your secrets and things that you hate. Remember there are immature people who will take advantage of that honesty.
</li><li>The only way to feel better about yourself is to avoid people that are trying to put you down. Sometimes it is better to have less friends than plenty of toxic people who drain your energy. Read related articles on how to avoid people that you don't like.
</li><li>By being honest doesn't mean to treat others with disrespect. Treat others as you would want them to treat you, but still tell them that they can't hurt you.
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You want to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Confident" title="Be Confident">be confident</a> and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Feel-Confident" title="Feel Confident">feel confident</a>, but what if you're starting with little or <b>no</b> confidence? How do you get from Point A to Point B? True self-confidence isn't an overnight acquisition. It takes dedication to realize you are a good human being that is worthy of respect and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Love" title="Love">love</a>.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li>Recognize your insecurities. What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you uncomfortable or ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Acne" title="Get Rid of Acne">acne</a>, to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Serious-Regrets" title="Overcome Serious Regrets">regrets</a>, friends at school or a past traumatic or negative experience. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down. You can also tear these written pieces to start feeling positive on those points.<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 1.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-1.jpg"></a>
</li><li>Talk about it with friends and loved ones. Wear it on your sleeve. Each day you should chip away at it; wear it down. There's no quick fix. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve each issue before you can move on. Check if it's an old past emotion and if it is really still relevant or applicable in your life today. And that doesn't mean you have to get rid of whatever makes you feel bad (many times, you simply can't). You need to learn to <i>accept</i> yourself, your past, your circumstances as they are, without necessarily thinking of them as "bad".<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 2.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-2.jpg"></a>
</li><li><b>Bounce back from your mistakes</b>. Remember that no one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road. And that often these insecure feelings come and go, depending on where we are, who we are with, the mood we're in, how we are feeling. In other words, they are not constant.<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 3.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-3.jpg"></a>
</li><li><b>Identify your successes.</b> Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which <i>you</i> excel, then focus on your <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Find-a-Talent" title="Find a Talent">talents</a>. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Creative" title="Be Creative">Express yourself</a>, whether it's through art, <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Play-the-Piano" title="Play the Piano">music</a>, writing, etc. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel in yours. If it's difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Love" title="Love">love</a> to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Ballroom-Dance" title="Ballroom Dance">lessons</a> or join an enthusiasts club. When you're following your passion, not only will it have a therapeutic effect, but you'll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self confidence. Plus, adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends!<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 4.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-4.jpg"></a>
</li><li> <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Thankful" title="Be Thankful">Be thankful</a> for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having <i>enough</i> of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you <b>do</b> have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 5.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-5.jpg"></a>
</li><li><b><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Positive" title="Be Positive">Be Positive</a></b>, even if you don't feel the same way. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior--they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 6.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-6.jpg"></a>
</li><li><b><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Take-Compliments" title="Take Compliments">Accept compliments</a> gracefully.</b> Don't roll your eyes and say, "Yeah, right," or shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Think-Positively" title="Think Positively">positively</a> ("<a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Say-Thank-You" title="Say Thank You">Thank you</a>" and a <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Smile" title="Smile">smile</a> works well).<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 7.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-7.jpg"></a>
</li><li><b>Look in the mirror and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Smile-When-You-Think-You-Can%27t-Smile" title="Smile When You Think You Can't Smile">smile</a>.</b> Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 8.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-8.jpg"></a>
</li><li><b>Fake it.</b> Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it. Pretend you're a completely confident version of you; go through the motions and see how you feel!<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 9.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-9.jpg"></a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Character-and-Integrity" class="mw-redirect" title="Build Character and Integrity">Stick to your principles</a>. It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't have anything. If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. No matter what's happened in your life, you can always lay claim to the fact that from this day forward, you've followed your principles to the best of your ability.<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 10.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-10.jpg"></a>
</li><li><b>Help others.</b> When you know you're kind to the people around you, and are making a positive difference in other people's lives (even if it's just being kinder to the person who serves you coffee in the morning), you'll know that you are a positive force in the world--which will boost your self confidence.<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 11.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-11.jpg"></a>
</li><li>Avoid perfectionism: Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from accomplishing your goals.<a class="image" title="Build Self Confidence Step 12.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Build-Self-Confidence-Step-12.jpg"></a>
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<ul><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Exercise" title="Exercise">Exercise</a> and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Eat-Healthy" title="Eat Healthy">eat healthily</a>. Exercise raises endorphins and makes one feel happier and healthier. It is certainly an easy and effective way to boost your self-confidence.
</li><li>Condition yourself to talk positively about yourself. Every time your mind wanders and say you are not apt at it, pause for a minute, undo those negative vibes and say you can do it. At least you should make an attempt to accomplish that daunting task. With that, you will learn more about yourself.
</li><li>Do not be afraid to push yourself beyond your physical or mental limits. Such a pressure would help you see how easily things can be achieved and thereby helps you hone skills. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Step-Out-of-Your-Comfort-Zone" title="Step Out of Your Comfort Zone">Step out of your comfort zone.</a>
</li><li>Avoid perfectionism. Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from accomplishing your goals.
</li><li>When you are feeling terribly insecure, write down your positive traits and read them back. This feedback would give you surprising results.
</li><li>You can provide yourself with an extra dose of confidence by using the <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Hypnotize-Yourself-Using-the-Best-Me-Technique" title="Hypnotize Yourself Using the Best Me Technique">Best Me Technique of self-hypnosis</a> to pre-experience the rewards of a long-term goal, thereby reducing the stress.
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<ul><li>Don't be overly kind to everyone, usually you will end up being taken advantage of.
</li><li>Do not get wrapped up in your mistakes and dwell on bad points. They could turn out to be a healthy contrast to your good points or even give you something to improve. There is no feeling like being good at something you were really bad at.
</li><li>Do not mistake being loud for confidence. Some loud people cover their insecurities. If you are happy with yourself, you are confident.
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<ul><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Happy" title="Be Happy">How to Be Happy</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Feeling-Like-Your-Life-Isn%27t-Good-Enough" title="Stop Feeling Like Your Life Isn't Good Enough">How to Stop Feeling Like Your Life Isn't Good Enough</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Control-Perfectionism" title="Control Perfectionism">How to Control Perfectionism</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Taking-Things-Personally" title="Stop Taking Things Personally">How to Stop Taking Things Personally</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Thankful-on-What-You-Have" class="mw-redirect" title="Be Thankful on What You Have">How to Be Thankful on What You Have</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Encourage-One%27s-Self" title="Encourage One's Self">How to Encourage One's Self</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Help-Yourself" title="Help Yourself">How to Help Yourself</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Discover-More-About-Who-You-Are-and-Be-Confident" title="Discover More About Who You Are and Be Confident">How to Discover More About Who You Are and Be Confident</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Walk-With-Lots-of-Confidence" title="Walk With Lots of Confidence">How to Walk With Lots of Confidence</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Boost-Self-Esteem-After-a-Break-Up" title="Boost Self Esteem After a Break Up">How to Boost Self Esteem After a Break Up</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Take-Pride-in-Your-Work" title="Take Pride in Your Work">How to Take Pride in Your Work</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Life-Matter" class="mw-redirect" title="Make a Life Matter">How to Make a Life Matter</a>
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If you feel ashamed of who you are and have low-self esteem because of this [shame], you are not alone.
Throughout all of our lives we have our own personal experiences that leave us with our own feelings about ourselves.
A lot of time we judge ourselves the way that others have judged us in the past. Many have made faulty judgements about us and unfortunately we may believe many of these to be true.
When we feel shame we do not feel bad about what we have done. We feel bad about who we are.
Shame is a very toxic emotion because it promotes low-self esteem, lack of self-confidence,depression, and social anxiety.
If we want to let go of shame and [build self-esteem] and and self confidence we need to remember the following 5 things.
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<ol><li> People cannot define who you are as person. Only you can define who you are.
</li><li> You are not what your body looks like. You are a person who thinks and feels. It is not about what you look like.
</li><li> The past is the past. We need to learn how to forget the past and move forward in our lives on this very day. Leave your shame behind as you forge ahead to a better life.
</li><li> Do whatever you can now in your life to become a better person and build self-esteem. Remember that you are a work in progress and you must be patient with yourself.
</li><li> Accept the things you cannot change about yourself, and focus on as well as highlight your good qualities.
</li><li>Remember, you are a unique individual and you have a lot to offer the world. Put your shame behind you, and shine like you were meant to shine.</span>
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There is a form of self-esteem that comes from an understanding of who God is and one's relationship with God. Here is how to develop self-esteem through God. This approach is centred on Jesus Christ the <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-Prophecies-About-the-Messiah" class="mw-redirect" title="Understand Prophecies About the Messiah">Messiah</a>; others may promote other paths, but this path has proven to be very effective; so effective that you or your friends can know <b>how to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Defend-a-Belief-in-the-Existence-of-God" title="Defend a Belief in the Existence of God">prove God is real</a></b> and find yourself in Him and bless the whole world in God's Love.
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<ol><li>Begin a <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Study-the-Bible" title="Study the Bible">study</a> of the scriptures. Start with the New Testament - the book of John. Also study the Old Testament. These are records of God's dealings with the men and women on earth and the prophecies he sent through prophets- every one of which has come true so far.
</li><li>Look for evidences, as you study, that you are a child of God, a son or daughter of God. Look also for evidence that God is the only <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Defend-Creationism-Against-Evolutionism" title="Defend Creationism Against Evolutionism">creator</a>, righteous, holy, loving, good, and not capable of any evil. Look for writings that show God's love for his children, a love that mirrors and transcends the love a parent has for a child. This will provide you with the theoretical knowledge to support your self-esteem. Knowing that your true self is connected to the fact that God created you and loves you even though you are a sinner provides true confidence. You can know that you are truly loved unconditionally, which is a good way to gain esteem and confidence.
</li><li>Begin turning your mind, actions and thoughts to reflect the things you've studied (put on the new man, and all of the armor of God) as you are converted by God <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Receive-the-Holy-Spirit-as-per-the-Bible" title="Receive the Holy Spirit as per the Bible">Receive the Holy Spirit as per the Bible</a> and are <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Born-Again" title="Be Born Again">born again</a>. These are the things that God has asked his children to do in order to serve him. God also knows that when one lives life the way He's prescribed for us, by obeying his commands, that person will be living life in the fullest most abundant way possible. In his love, he has given you guidance to achieve this.
</li><li>Call upon God in prayer, in the name of Jesus Christ. You can even use those words: "...in the name of Jesus Christ". As you seek to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Follow-Jesus" title="Follow Jesus">follow Christ</a>, he will change you <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Born-Again" title="Be Born Again">Be Born Again</a>. If you turn away from sin and accept that Christ died on the cross and rose again to save you from <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Escape-the-Condemnation-of-Hell-According-to-the-Word-of-God-in-the-Bible" title="Escape the Condemnation of Hell According to the Word of God in the Bible">eternal separation from God</a>, then the holy spirit will regenerate you and make you into a new person. Both the prayer and the life-changes will give you the practical experience to support your self-esteem.
</li><li>Notice that God will be with you: as you come across obstacles in your life that will be impossible to overcome, "all by yourself".
</li><li>Cherish the moment: It won't matter what others think about you, what they say, or what you can and can't do. You will feel good about yourself because you will know how much Jesus Christ loves you. It is a feeling you won't get anywhere else.
</li><li>Live for God, when it's all done: Remember, if you are a Christian, you are living in the world, but you are not "of" the world. The rules of world's peoples, their esteem, their clothing, everything of theirs is just that, theirs; not given over to God's will. You are God's loved child, and as his child, you must rely fully on him for everything, including self-esteem.
<ul><li>Self-esteem is HIGHLY overrated. If you need more self-esteem, you need more God. It is not our self-esteem that matters, but our GOD-esteem. Remember that through your day. Who cares if kids at school or co-workers tease or ridicule you for your faith? In the end, its not your social standing that matters, its your <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Renew-Your-Faith-and-Religion" class="mw-redirect" title="Renew Your Faith and Religion">faith</a>.
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<a name="Tips"></a><h2> Tips </h2>
<ul><li>Reading the Holy Bible and actually understanding it can give you real self esteem. Take some time to read and reflect on it.
</li><li>Remember that you may not see Godly things as the answer to your problems even though they might be better for you than you can ever believe, think or imagine.
</li><li>Understand that God made you for a reason, as in the Bible many have done what God wanted them to do, and look how they affected history.
<ul><li><i>26 Watch the path of your feet and all your ways will be established.27 Do not turn to the right nor to the left: turn your foot from evil.(Proverbs 4:26-27)<a href="#_note-0" title="">[1]</a></i>
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<ul><li>There are mystical courses that claim to have all of life's answers. It seems to have the "spiritually correct" solution to bring about peace and unity. However, in the end, this transformation brings spiritual death if it is just miracles and angels without <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Accept-Christ-As-Your-Savior" title="Accept Christ As Your Savior">Christ</a>.
</li><li>Be clear that a message about miracles and angelic beings is not necessarily the message of <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Pray-to-Jesus" title="Pray to Jesus">Jesus</a> Christ. It may be an eastern/or a new age religion wrapped in Christian terminology. That is deceptive because it sounds like Christianity but it is very very different unless it is lifting up Jesus Christ as savior.
</li><li>The Bible is fully inspired by God's <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Filled-With-the-Holy-Spirit" class="mw-redirect" title="Be Filled With the Holy Spirit">Holy Spirit</a> so know that He does not merely want you to be confident in yourself. He actually wants you to give him your entire life -- that's why Jesus dying on the Cross was so significant.
</li><li>If you are to the point where you have no self esteem and see no worth in your life talk to someone as soon as possible. These feelings are dangerous.
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<a name="Things_You.27ll_Need"></a><h2> Things You'll Need </h2>
<ul><li>Scriptures
</li><li>Bible
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<ul><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Avoid-Sabotaging-Your-Prayer-Life" class="mw-redirect" title="Avoid Sabotaging Your Prayer Life">How to Avoid Sabotaging Your Prayer Life</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Personal-Relationship-With-Christ" class="mw-redirect" title="Have a Personal Relationship With Christ">How to Have a Personal Relationship With Christ</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-Prophecies-About-the-Messiah" class="mw-redirect" title="Understand Prophecies About the Messiah">How to Understand Prophecies About the Messiah</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Conservative-in-a-Liberal-Church" title="Be Conservative in a Liberal Church">How to Be Conservative in a Liberal Church</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Help-Paranoid-People" title="Help Paranoid People">How to Help Paranoid People</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Self-Esteem-Without-God" title="Develop Self Esteem Without God">How to Develop Self Esteem Without God</a>
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<a name="Sources_and_Citations"></a><h2> Sources and Citations </h2>
<ul><li>Holy Bible
</li><li>wayofthemaster.com
</li><li>olivetreeviews.org
</li><li>sliceoflaodicea.com
</li><li>understandthetimes.org
</li><li><a href="http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/thcourse.html" class="external free" title="http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/thcourse.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/thcourse.html</a>
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<ol class="references"><li id="_note-0"><a href="#_ref-0" title="">↑</a> <a href="http://bible.cc/proverbs/4.htm" class="external free" title="http://bible.cc/proverbs/4.htm" rel="nofollow">http://bible.cc/proverbs/4.htm</a> Proverbs 4:26-27</li></ol>
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<td align="center">Babies are born knowing their self-worth; as life moves on, the comments, expectations, and attitudes of other people can wear down this natural sense of self-worth. Self-worth is what enables us to believe that we are capable of doing our best with our talents, of contributing well in society, and that we deserve to lead a fulfilling life. Building it up again is therefore natural, essential, and healthy<a href="http://selfesteem01.blogspot.com/2013/03/how-to-build-self-worth.html" >...<strong>Read more</strong></a></a>
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Babies are born knowing their self-worth; as life moves on, the comments, expectations, and attitudes of other people can wear down this natural sense of self-worth. Self-worth is what enables us to believe that we are capable of doing our best with our talents, of contributing well in society, and that we deserve to lead a fulfilling life. Building it up again is therefore natural, essential, and healthy.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li> Understand the power of your attitude toward yourself and views about yourself. How you perceive yourself, how you talk about yourself, and how you represent yourself eventually become the reality for you. And if it happens that you're putting yourself down, belittling your worth, and making light of your talents in the face of others, then you will come across as self-effacing, <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Cope-With-Low-Self-Esteem" title="Cope With Low Self Esteem">low in self-esteem</a>, and almost a part of the wallpaper. This isn't humility, it's self-denial and an attempt to lessen your presence. On the other hand, if you exaggerate your qualities, talents, and skills, you'll come across as egotistical and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Arrogant" title="Be Arrogant">arrogant</a> but oddly enough, this is not about over-estimating your self-worth but about deceiving yourself through insecurity. There is a middle pathway and it is the one in which you recognize and celebrate the fact that you are a valuable person, equal to everyone else, and that your talents and thoughts are unique and worthy. Getting to this belief can be difficult if you have spent years underestimating your worth but it is always possible to change your thoughts and to learn to value yourself.
</li><li> Learn to overcome a fear of self-love. Self-love is often equated with <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Identify-Being-a-Narcissistic-Extension" title="Identify Being a Narcissistic Extension">narcissism</a>, egotism, and some kind of one-way trip to introversion. This is probably partly because the English language has a hard time dealing with the word "love" – it has to cover a lot of territory for the many different types of love out there. It is also mired in the confusion people feel about the messaging to do good unto others, to always be charitable, and to give, give, give, of oneself. While these are noble intentions, they can often be taken out of proportion and used to downplay putting one's own needs and wants beneath those of others out of a fear of being perceived as selfish or inward-looking. Again, this is about getting the balance right.
<ul><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Maintain-Good-Spiritual-Health" title="Maintain Good Spiritual Health">Healthy self love</a> is about being your own best friend. Self love is expressed not through preening oneself all day and constantly announcing how great you are (those are signs of intense <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Insecurity" title="Overcome Insecurity">insecurity</a>); rather, self love is about treating yourself with the same care, <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Tolerant-of-Others" title="Be Tolerant of Others">tolerance</a>, generosity, and compassion as you would treat a special friend.
</li><li>Treat yourself with care, compassion, and respect.
</li><li>Avoid overlaying how you think other people see you; how does it help you to capitulate to their idea of you? Only you can give yourself the esteem boost needed.
</li><li>Self love falters when we fall into the realm of <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-an-Addiction" title="Overcome an Addiction">addiction</a>. Alcoholism, drug addiction, Internet addiction, and all similar addictions are a sign that you're hurting deeply but also that you don't want to face up to the opportunities presented by working through your pain.
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</li><li> <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Self-Esteem" title="Develop Self Esteem">Trust your own feelings</a>. Self-worth requires that you learn to listen to and rely upon your own feelings and not automatically respond to the feelings of other people. Once those around you establish that you'll respond to what they want, they lack any incentive to not make use of your responsiveness, and that sets a bind for you that can be hard to break (but break it you must). When you trust your own feelings, you will realize that when demands are placed upon you, you don't feel great and you will want to respond with what works better for you, or for both of you, rather than what works better for everyone else <i>except</i> you.
<ul><li>Self-worth plummets when we let others <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Decisions" title="Make Decisions">make decisions</a> for us. Initially this may seem like the easy route and one that allows you to avoid hard choices. Ultimately though, it turns into the hard route because you will always find yourself boxed in by what other people decide for you. And then suddenly, if the people who make decisions for you disappear from your life, you are left alone and indecisive. That is a very earth-shattering place to end up in and it's more likely than not to happen if you're not prepared to make decisions for yourself.
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</li><li> Analyze yourself. Many of us live in a culture that is very fond of going to see someone else to analyze us. Unless you've got a serious disorder, garden variety uncertainty and lack of purpose does not need analysis by someone else. It needs analysis by yourself so that you can clearly recognize where you're underestimating yourself and short-changing yourself. Here are some questions for your self-analysis:
<ul><li>What experience have I had? How has this experience informed my growth?
</li><li>What are my talents? List at least five.
</li><li>What are my skills? Remember that <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Find-a-Talent" title="Find a Talent">talents</a> are innate, skills need to be worked on to perfect them.
</li><li>What are my <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Identify-Your-Strengths" title="Identify Your Strengths">strengths</a>? Stop focusing on your weaknesses, you've probably done that long enough. Start looking at what your strengths are and start thinking about how you can make the most of them in the things you choose to do.
</li><li>What do I want to be doing with my life? Am I doing it? If not, why not?
</li><li>Am I happy with my health? If not, why not? And what can I do to move into wellness instead of living in sickness?
</li><li>What makes me feel fulfilled? Am I working on that or am I busy working on other people's fulfillment?
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</li><li> Stop making your self-worth conditional on other people. Once you try to live up to an image of what you think others want to you to be, you lose self-worth. Instead, you are following a compass set by other people's expectations, whether or not those expectations are clearly defined or implied. Unfortunately, many people live this way, including making such choices as studies, <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Switch-Careers" title="Switch Careers">career</a>, where to live, and how many children to have, all based on expectations from parents, spouses, friends, and the media, and mostly because they are afraid of standing up for their own preferences and respecting their self-worth.
<ul><li>Be very wary of listening too much to people who regret the choices that they made in life and are willing to inflict their distress or <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Control-Anger" title="Control Anger">anger</a> at this regret upon others (especially upon the next generation). Such people won't enlighten you as to the path of acting on your self-worth but will try to either live out what they didn't get through you or even expect you to have the same rotten experiences they had by giving poor information, incorrect details, or simply omitting to inform you at all. People with healthy self-worth will share their insights and learning with you, and will be willing to guide you around life's many traps. Look for those people to mentor you rather than being misguided by the unhappy people.
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</li><li> Tell yourself that you matter. Realistic self <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Keep-Sales-Staff-Motivated-During-Holiday-Season" title="Keep Sales Staff Motivated During Holiday Season">pep-talks</a> are great and affirming your self-worth openly to yourself can be a very good way to start changing the internal negative speak that you might have developed over time. Make set times during the day to remind yourself that you're a great person. Tell yourself you're special, wonderful, <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Lovable" title="Be Lovable">lovable</a>, and loved. Affirmative talk is not the sole solution but it is part of a range of methods for boosting yourself and for taking out time to acknowledge that you do matter, as much as every person around you.
</li><li> Prove to yourself that you matter. One of the problems with much advice on <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Use-Affirmations-Effectively" title="Use Affirmations Effectively">self-affirmations</a> is that there is a sense that affirmations are in and of themselves magic. And that they are all that's needed to improve your sense of self. If only that were so, it'd be very easy to build self-worth! The reality is somewhat different and while it's important to use positive self-speak, it is also important to act on your sense of self-worth. And this is achieved by recognizing and accepting responsibility. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Responsible" title="Be Responsible">Responsibility</a> is about owning up to the fact that you are in control of your attitude, your reactions, and your sense of worth. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent", and that is the crux of poor self-worth - letting other people and circumstances serve as the source of lowering your self-worth is going to keep you stuck. Responsibility also requires that you relinquish the need to use <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Forgive" title="Forgive">blame</a> as a source of coping; blame alleviates the need to look at yourself and to change your own behavior. While that seems like the easy option at times, it's also the one that will leave you stuck in time, and stuck with your negative feelings, and worst of all, leaves you feeling helpless. For blame implies that someone or something else has the power that <i>you</i> lack; and if that isn't giving up, then what is?
<ul><li>Learn to act together, with others, and not be acted upon.
</li><li>Accept the responsibility for your circumstances. Make a decision to do something about them. Even if others appear to stand in your way, work around them. Don't resign.
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Project-to-Your-Mindscape" title="Project to Your Mindscape">Focus your energy</a> on what you need to do to change the situation or the circumstances. Realize that other people have been wrapped up in the circumstances too and are not necessarily directing the outcome.
</li><li>Don't blame your parents, the government, your next door neighbors. What have they got to do with the perfectly well-formed thinking matter inside your head? They may have made things difficult for you but you can understand that without using it as an excuse to reduce your self-worth. Avoid being a <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Martyr-Syndrome" title="Overcome Martyr Syndrome">martyr</a>; the responsibility to move on as a strong, whole person rests with you.
</li><li>Work on your <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Your-Resilience" title="Develop Your Resilience">resilience</a>. Resilient people have the emotional strength to get through life's difficulties without falling apart. This isn't about belittling the hardships and challenges of life – they are still very real – but it is about how <i>you</i> react and work your way through them. You always have a choice between demeaning yourself or always remembering your self-worth and staying firm in that resolve.
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</li><li> Heed opportunities. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Create-an-Abundance-Mentality" title="Create an Abundance Mentality">Opportunities</a> present themselves in all sorts of ways. Grasping them is altogether another matter and not one many of us are adept at doing. Part of building self-worth is learning to recognize opportunities, however small, and working <i>with</i> them. Sometimes a great deal of patience will be called for; at other times, much self-restraint and downsizing of ambition might be needed. Whatever the case, take the opportunities life offers you and make the most of them because you deserve to do so.
<ul><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Budget-Your-Money" title="Budget Your Money">Budget</a>. Whatever else you do with your money, have a budget. Then you will actually know what you're doing with your money. Self-worth is often closely tied to one's financial situation. All financial opportunities that come your way should be assessed with care and not simply ignored or retreated from. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Save-for-Retirement" title="Save for Retirement">Retirement savings</a>, investments, and savings in general are all things that will help ensure a sound life for you and financial freedom allows you the space to build self worth away from financial pressures.
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Face-Challenges" title="Face Challenges">Challenges</a>. Successful people tend to turn challenges into opportunities. Can you practice this thinking style too? Try it out on the smallest of things first and start changing your language by removing the negative words and using words that reflect a sense of purpose, direction, and focus. Don't go to the opposite extreme though and paint everything as rosy; life still has its thorns and its tragedies, and what is needed is a realistic appraisal followed by a determination to keep striving for better.
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</li><li> Value yourself regardless of your job and earnings. Undervaluing your worth in tangible terms is a self-worth trap. This step is about money, plain and simple. In societies that tend to value people by what they <i>do</i> rather than by who they <i>are</i>, there is a great risk of undervaluing your self-worth because it's tied up in earnings and job prestige. If you ever find yourself replying "Oh I'm just a ..." in reply to the question "So what do you do?", you're suffering from a self-worth deficit. You are not "just" anything – you are you, a unique, valuable, and wonderful human being who matters. If you equate self-worth with doing something that is recognized by a monetary or socially discernible scale of <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Wealth" title="Build Wealth">wealth</a> and if you don't feel you meet that, then kaboom! You can easily lose your self-worth.
</li><li> Value your time. Alongside undervaluing yourself because of the job you have or the earnings you make is that of how you spend your time. If you're performing volunteer or low-paid support work that eats up your time well beyond what you can afford, and you're neglecting other parts of your life, such as looking for a job, spending time with your family, or ensuring that your own life is running smoothly, then it's possible that you're caught up in competing value systems. The first value system is that which tells us we must volunteer or contribute community service to others more needy in society because it is both noble and essential for our own sense of <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Maintain-Wellbeing-in-a-Mobile-World" title="Maintain Wellbeing in a Mobile World">well-being</a>. The second value system is that which rewards us for knowing our self-worth and for expecting good compensation for what we contribute to society. These two competing values create <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Relieve-a-Tension-Headache" title="Relieve a Tension Headache">tension</a> for many well-meaning people who want to give but find themselves caught up in the challenges of lack of time, lack of money, and a sense of inadequacy with all the juggling. Ultimately, if you are <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Stress" title="Deal With Stress">stressed</a> out, feeling undervalued, and you're inadequately compensated, your balance of these two values has become skewed and has depleted your self-worth. Eventually this will lead to one of more of the following: being sick, exploding and walking out for good, resenting the loss of your time, and/or perpetuating an unhealthy balance that not only impacts you but serves as a poor role model for your children, friends, and others watching you. When you feel a need to downplay your talents and skills and give them away freely or at little cost, it's a wake-up call to take back your time and to start valuing yourself more.
<ul><li>Evaluate the balance between the time you give away to others and how that time needs to spent on your own life. Could you be spending more time with your family and/or friends? If the answer to that is yes, then realize that your wealth resides in keeping that time for you and those you love, and reducing the amount of time you give away to others. It doesn't mean that you have to give up helping out completely, but you do need to put community service or commitments to helping others into perspective.
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</li><li> Follow through. Maintain your focus on self-worth as an important part of what goes into making you whole. Make time on a regular basis to check on your progress in building your self-worth and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Patient" title="Be Patient">be patient</a>. It takes time to change negative self-talk and putting yourself last. If your entire pattern of interacting with others has been based on effacing yourself as much as possible, it will take a lot of courage to make the changes needed and there will be some people who find the new, more <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Assertive" title="Be Assertive">assertive</a> you a little confronting. Don't let that worry you because it's about your journey, not theirs. And you are seeking to gain respect as you go, something that people pleasers rarely have.
<ul><li>Break the habit of trying to please everyone all of the time. That is impossible and even being a <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Being-a-People-Pleaser" title="Stop Being a People Pleaser">people pleaser</a> will displease some people, particularly those with a high sense of self-worth who find such behavior cringe-worthy.
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Live-in-the-Moment" title="Live in the Moment">Live in the present</a>. The past has its lessons from which you've learned but it's long gone, so leave it behind you.
</li><li>Keep a notebook of your achievements. Every time you feel tempted to put yourself down and to bemoan that you're getting nowhere, make a cup of coffee, sit down comfortably and take out this book and read through it. Can you update it with a new achievement while you're there?
</li><li>Compete only with yourself, not with others.
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Express-Your-Feelings" title="Express Your Feelings">Express your feelings</a> instead of bottling them up. In doing so, respect the feelings of others but don't be beholden to them.
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<ul><li>Be careful of platitudes in place of affirmations. In the sense of self-worth, platitudes represent the sayings, pep-talk, or accepted wisdom that do not resonate with you at all. While one platitude might really grip the imagination of one person, to you it might seem like vapid nonsense. While there is no need to disparage the person who thrives off it, equally you don't need to feel that you should adopt platitudes that do nothing for you. Find your own sources of inspiration and live up to them.
</li><li>People tend to reinvent themselves every 10 years. So there is no need to beat yourself up for not being the same person as 10 years ago. Instead, say to yourself "Thank goodness", pick yourself up and move on. Think of all the wisdom you've gained in the meantime and make use of that.
</li><li>Everybody you meet is abundant with opportunities. Be interested in other people and be willing to spend time with them to learn new things. You never know what you may discover that will enlighten you as to ways to build your self-worth. It also helps to listen to a broad range of people, to put your own troubles and angst into perspective.
</li><li>Share your learning about building self-worth with others. Show your children by example how you are continuing to learn self-worth and improve it. Help them learn that it is never wrong to reinvent yourself and to pull yourself up out of the doldrums. Show them that life's journey is as much about cultivating your better self daily, weekly, and yearly, as it is about moving up the corporate ladder, buying a new house and car, or marking notches in the social stratosphere.
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<a name="Warnings"></a><h2> Warnings </h2>
<ul><li>Setting yourself up to do a lot is overwhelming, and as the list builds up, it will depreciate your self-worth by reminding you what you haven't done. Sometimes, it may lead you to falsely believe that you can do things you can't and that you can't do things that you can. Take breathers and reassess your life's direction on a regular basis.
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</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Feel-Confident-and-Look-Pretty-when-You-Are-Black" title="Feel Confident and Look Pretty when You Are Black">How to Feel Confident and Look Pretty when You Are Black</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Comfortable-and-Confident-With-Yourself" title="Be Comfortable and Confident With Yourself">How to Be Comfortable and Confident With Yourself</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Improve-Self-Confidence-for-a-Better-Attitude" class="mw-redirect" title="Improve Self Confidence for a Better Attitude">How to Improve Self Confidence for a Better Attitude</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Become-a-Trustworthy-Person" title="Become a Trustworthy Person">How to Become a Trustworthy Person</a>
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<td align="center"> Recovering from low self esteem is not easy, but it is possible. There are some habits we can develop to recognize low self esteem. Then the challenge is to turn each situation around so we can build healthy self esteem.<a href="http://selfesteem01.blogspot.com/2013/03/how-to-cope-with-low-self-esteem.html" >...<strong>Read more</strong></a></a>
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Recovering from low self esteem is not easy, but it is possible. There are some habits we can develop to recognize low self esteem. Then the challenge is to turn each situation around so we can build healthy self esteem.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li>Develop a sense of awareness. Low self esteem comes from being treated as if how we feel and what we need from life does not matter. We then internalize this treatment, and begin to treat ourselves as a nobody. The vicious circle goes on.
</li><li> Draw on our innate intuition to help others, and use this to help ourselves. For example, if a child was being treated badly and suffering, we would see that and want to intervene. If our friend was being abused, we could see that and advise them to stop accepting that behavior. The trick is to turn that awareness of others' pain into awareness of ourselves, and to become our own best friend.
</li><li> Find the tiniest thing you can change and change it. This is by far the hardest step, but it will get easier with practice. For example, if someone constantly borrows your pencil without asking, in the past you may have dismissed your inner feelings of annoyance. Now, we need to tune into them instead. And act on them; it may be as simple as saying - "you know what, it annoys me when you just take my pencil". Anything that says how we really feel helps.
</li><li>In every situation where you feel bad, ask yourself the question - what would a best friend say I should do? Then go on - be your own best friend.
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<a name="Tips"></a><h2> Tips </h2>
<ul><li> This can become a game, with each success feeling like a few more self-esteem points in the bank. But expect resistance; those of us with low self esteem tend to attract abuse - even small time abuse.
</li><li> Small steps towards being our own best friend will add up to big steps in time. The first step can feel like razor blades running through our bodies; then it becomes second-nature. And best of all, we teach those around us how to be healthy and value themselves too!
</li><li>Find a buddy to help, and share your successes.
</li><li>Remember low self esteem comes from being treated like you don't count. You can change it by treating yourself like you do count!
</li><li>The hardest part of building self esteem is feeling a sense of entitlement. Remember the ad - "because you are worth it" and go for it!
</li><li>Everyday life gets better when you value yourself; you become happier, have more fun, and treat others with more respect too!
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<a name="Warnings"></a><h2> Warnings </h2>
<ul><li>Sometimes, when we are so low, we need outside help. A good counselor who treats us well can help. By being valued and heard, we begin to value and heed our own needs.
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</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Boost-Your-Self-Esteem-by-Being-Honest" title="Boost Your Self Esteem by Being Honest">How to Boost Your Self Esteem by Being Honest</a>
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There is a form of self-esteem that comes from an understanding of who God is and one's relationship with God. Here is how to develop self-esteem through God. This approach is centred on Jesus Christ the <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-Prophecies-About-the-Messiah" class="mw-redirect" title="Understand Prophecies About the Messiah">Messiah</a>; others may promote other paths, but this path has proven to be very effective; so effective that you or your friends can know <b>how to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Defend-a-Belief-in-the-Existence-of-God" title="Defend a Belief in the Existence of God">prove God is real</a></b> and find yourself in Him and bless the whole world in God's Love.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li>Begin a <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Study-the-Bible" title="Study the Bible">study</a> of the scriptures. Start with the New Testament - the book of John. Also study the Old Testament. These are records of God's dealings with the men and women on earth and the prophecies he sent through prophets- every one of which has come true so far.
</li><li>Look for evidences, as you study, that you are a child of God, a son or daughter of God. Look also for evidence that God is the only <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Defend-Creationism-Against-Evolutionism" title="Defend Creationism Against Evolutionism">creator</a>, righteous, holy, loving, good, and not capable of any evil. Look for writings that show God's love for his children, a love that mirrors and transcends the love a parent has for a child. This will provide you with the theoretical knowledge to support your self-esteem. Knowing that your true self is connected to the fact that God created you and loves you even though you are a sinner provides true confidence. You can know that you are truly loved unconditionally, which is a good way to gain esteem and confidence.
</li><li>Begin turning your mind, actions and thoughts to reflect the things you've studied (put on the new man, and all of the armor of God) as you are converted by God <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Receive-the-Holy-Spirit-as-per-the-Bible" title="Receive the Holy Spirit as per the Bible">Receive the Holy Spirit as per the Bible</a> and are <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Born-Again" title="Be Born Again">born again</a>. These are the things that God has asked his children to do in order to serve him. God also knows that when one lives life the way He's prescribed for us, by obeying his commands, that person will be living life in the fullest most abundant way possible. In his love, he has given you guidance to achieve this.
</li><li>Call upon God in prayer, in the name of Jesus Christ. You can even use those words: "...in the name of Jesus Christ". As you seek to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Follow-Jesus" title="Follow Jesus">follow Christ</a>, he will change you <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Born-Again" title="Be Born Again">Be Born Again</a>. If you turn away from sin and accept that Christ died on the cross and rose again to save you from <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Escape-the-Condemnation-of-Hell-According-to-the-Word-of-God-in-the-Bible" title="Escape the Condemnation of Hell According to the Word of God in the Bible">eternal separation from God</a>, then the holy spirit will regenerate you and make you into a new person. Both the prayer and the life-changes will give you the practical experience to support your self-esteem.
</li><li>Notice that God will be with you: as you come across obstacles in your life that will be impossible to overcome, "all by yourself".
</li><li>Cherish the moment: It won't matter what others think about you, what they say, or what you can and can't do. You will feel good about yourself because you will know how much Jesus Christ loves you. It is a feeling you won't get anywhere else.
</li><li>Live for God, when it's all done: Remember, if you are a Christian, you are living in the world, but you are not "of" the world. The rules of world's peoples, their esteem, their clothing, everything of theirs is just that, theirs; not given over to God's will. You are God's loved child, and as his child, you must rely fully on him for everything, including self-esteem.
<ul><li>Self-esteem is HIGHLY overrated. If you need more self-esteem, you need more God. It is not our self-esteem that matters, but our GOD-esteem. Remember that through your day. Who cares if kids at school or co-workers tease or ridicule you for your faith? In the end, its not your social standing that matters, its your <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Renew-Your-Faith-and-Religion" class="mw-redirect" title="Renew Your Faith and Religion">faith</a>.
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<a name="Tips"></a><h2> Tips </h2>
<ul><li>Reading the Holy Bible and actually understanding it can give you real self esteem. Take some time to read and reflect on it.
</li><li>Remember that you may not see Godly things as the answer to your problems even though they might be better for you than you can ever believe, think or imagine.
</li><li>Understand that God made you for a reason, as in the Bible many have done what God wanted them to do, and look how they affected history.
<ul><li><i>26 Watch the path of your feet and all your ways will be established.27 Do not turn to the right nor to the left: turn your foot from evil.(Proverbs 4:26-27)<a href="#_note-0" title="">[1]</a></i>
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<a name="Warnings"></a><h2> Warnings </h2>
<ul><li>There are mystical courses that claim to have all of life's answers. It seems to have the "spiritually correct" solution to bring about peace and unity. However, in the end, this transformation brings spiritual death if it is just miracles and angels without <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Accept-Christ-As-Your-Savior" title="Accept Christ As Your Savior">Christ</a>.
</li><li>Be clear that a message about miracles and angelic beings is not necessarily the message of <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Pray-to-Jesus" title="Pray to Jesus">Jesus</a> Christ. It may be an eastern/or a new age religion wrapped in Christian terminology. That is deceptive because it sounds like Christianity but it is very very different unless it is lifting up Jesus Christ as savior.
</li><li>The Bible is fully inspired by God's <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Filled-With-the-Holy-Spirit" class="mw-redirect" title="Be Filled With the Holy Spirit">Holy Spirit</a> so know that He does not merely want you to be confident in yourself. He actually wants you to give him your entire life -- that's why Jesus dying on the Cross was so significant.
</li><li>If you are to the point where you have no self esteem and see no worth in your life talk to someone as soon as possible. These feelings are dangerous.
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<a name="Things_You.27ll_Need"></a><h2> Things You'll Need </h2>
<ul><li>Scriptures
</li><li>Bible
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</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Personal-Relationship-With-Christ" class="mw-redirect" title="Have a Personal Relationship With Christ">How to Have a Personal Relationship With Christ</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-Prophecies-About-the-Messiah" class="mw-redirect" title="Understand Prophecies About the Messiah">How to Understand Prophecies About the Messiah</a>
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</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Self-Esteem-Without-God" title="Develop Self Esteem Without God">How to Develop Self Esteem Without God</a>
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<a name="Sources_and_Citations"></a><h2> Sources and Citations </h2>
<ul><li>Holy Bible
</li><li>wayofthemaster.com
</li><li>olivetreeviews.org
</li><li>sliceoflaodicea.com
</li><li>understandthetimes.org
</li><li><a href="http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/thcourse.html" class="external free" title="http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/thcourse.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/thcourse.html</a>
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<ol class="references"><li id="_note-0"><a href="#_ref-0" title="">↑</a> <a href="http://bible.cc/proverbs/4.htm" class="external free" title="http://bible.cc/proverbs/4.htm" rel="nofollow">http://bible.cc/proverbs/4.htm</a> Proverbs 4:26-27</li></ol>
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Trying to be the life of the party but still don't have enough confidence to do it? Your low self esteem is playing tricks on you? Let's review these tips for a big confidence boost.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li> Get some self esteem. Look closely at the life of the party. Do they always wear expensive and elegant attire, are they 6 ft tall, insanely thin and gorgeous? Most probably not. Even if they are, these are NOT the reasons for being very popular. Write a list of only good things about yourself. Write a list of things that need improvement, for example : grades, quality of your health, confidence. Work out a plan to eat healthier/ study harder/be more confident. Fake it till you make it. Also believe that every single negative thing can be turned into a positive. If you aren't thin, say you have womanly curves. If you aren't tall believe that you are a petite cutie pie. If you are tall and under confident, feel that you are a sexy glamazon. Small lips, big lips... It doesn't matter and both are beautiful.
</li><li>Practice walking and sitting with your back straight; having a good posture can make wonders on your self esteem.
</li><li>Make proper eye contact with people you talk with as much as possible. It takes practice, especially if you have low self esteem. Start with 5 seconds, and work your way up. To break up the eye contact look at another feature on their face (never below the chin, and never over their shoulder), then come back to their eyes.
</li><li>Dress like a winner, your clothes and appearance can make a big difference between being perceived as a great person or a lame person. Get a personal shopper (they are free) at a major department store to help you out whether it is one item or an entire wardrobe. You would be amazed at what they would perceive to look good on you versus what you would wear.
</li><li>Learn new social skills like: learning how to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Great-Conversation" title="Have a Great Conversation">have a great conversation</a> or how to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Listener" title="Be a Good Listener">be a good listener</a>. Start by learning how to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Listen" title="Listen">listen</a>. The most popular people are the ones perceived as good listeners first!
</li><li>Learn skills that entertain people like card tricks, magic or palmistry; some of these skills are easy to learn and can give you a great self esteem boost.
</li><li>The best skill to learn is a sense of (healthy) humor, the ability to laugh at oneself (within reason). Popular people are the ones with the best sense of humor.
</li><li>Surround yourself with great people with good self esteem, who support you and help you with your self esteem issues.
</li><li>Read books and learn about how to improve your self esteem.
</li><li>Identify the top two things that you tend to identify as pulling down your self esteem, and work on improving them in order to mitigate the source of your lack of self esteem. For example, if your biggest self esteem issue stems from your being overweight, then work on that issue first. Keep crossing out your top two self esteem busters as you work on them, till your list is all clear!
</li><li>Work your newfound charm and self esteem on one person, then another, then another, then a couple at a time, and in no time on a crowd! You have been just crowned 'Popular'!
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<a name="Tips"></a><h2> Tips </h2>
<ul><li>Good self esteem will help you throughout your life so build it as quickly as you can.
</li><li>Two great self esteem booster books are The Magic of Thinking Big and Think and Grow Rich
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Popular" title="Be Popular">Being popular</a> is easier when you have a good self esteem so improve it to be perceived as a great person.
</li><li>The only way to improve your self esteem is by doing; start with small, positive changes that you are comfortable with, and centralize the improvements in yourself and in your life.
</li><li>Remember humility. It's not about thinking less of yourself, it's about thinking of yourself less and remembering to think of others. Think highly of yourself, but don't act as if you think yourself better than others, even if you do. Be respectful of everyone's differences.
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<a name="Warnings"></a><h2> Warnings </h2>
<ul><li>By default, avoid people who tend to put you down, who do not put you at ease, who make you painfully aware that your self esteem is low. If this includes family, so be it. We have but one life, and are entitled to the pursuit of our own happiness!
</li><li>Avoid other people whose self esteem is equally low!
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<ul><li>Popular buddies
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</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Become-Sociable" title="Become Sociable">How to Become Sociable</a>
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After a break up its very common to feel useless and unwanted. This is what most people endure and it stops them from moving on and makes them feel insecure.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li> Take a look at yourself and think of all your best qualities and talents. These are the things that make you who you are and you should not be afraid to be proud of them.
</li><li> Find a hobby or interest to keep you occupied and keep your mind off the break up.
</li><li> Try working out and going to the gym. If you start working out and get fit you will feel much more confident in your appearance. Besides, exercise releases endorphins, the body's own 'feel-good' chemical, so you'll feel happier afterwards.
</li><li> Visit friends and family. Relationships will come and go but friends and family are an important part of your life. They support you and you're always guaranteed they are looking out for you.
</li><li> Live a normal life and be happy. If you are uptight and depressed about past relationships you will not find anyone new in a hurry. Be happy and confident. It's very attractive to be a happy and positive person so look on the bright side.
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<a name="Tips"></a><h2> Tips </h2>
<ul><li>Try writing a list of all your best attributes and remember this is who you are so be proud.
</li><li>Join a sports team or a club. Its great meeting new people and making friends and those are two perfect places to start.
</li><li>Go to a gym or for a run with a friend. Its much more enjoyable with someone you like to do things with and it takes your mind off other things.
</li><li>Be confident and smile, if you are positive and people know it they will want to be around you more.
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<a name="Warnings"></a><h2> Warnings </h2>
<ul><li>Don't go crazy at the gym, try to enjoy yourself but you don't want to end up looking like the hulk
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</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up" title="Get Over a Break Up">How to Get Over a Break Up</a>
</li><li><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Self-Esteem" title="Develop Self Esteem">How to Develop Self Esteem</a>
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For many years now, "self-esteem" has been synonymous with "self image," but that's not really what self-esteem is. Positive self-image is important - it's caring about yourself and seeing yourself as a unique and special individual simply because of who you are as a human being.
Self-esteem is a positive sense of one's own worth that is based on actually doing worthy things - it's that feeling you get when you've accomplished something, and it's a great feeling. Here's how to build it and help others lift theirs in the process.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li> Do things and live life so that you impress yourself. There's only one way to elevate your self-esteem - earn your own respect. Many times we try to impress others but that's a fool's game. The person you <i>really</i> need to impress is <i>you</i>. Always seek to improve yourself against your own <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Close-the-Achievement-Gap" title="Close the Achievement Gap">achievements</a>, your own milestones, not anyone else's.
<ul><li>Stop <i>trying</i> to win other's respect. Live your life with integrity and self-determination based on what impresses you, and respect will follow.
</li><li>When possible, walk away from people who don't respect you. When you can't, don't sink to their level. That can be difficult but it improves with practice. It makes a good goal in itself to learn not to sink to their level when people disrespect you. Understand that they may have a generic reason to disrespect you such as prejudice or by character they may be malicious. If it's a misunderstanding, try sorting it out - when a liar spreads stories about you it can be hard to sort out what they said and spread the truth but it can cause people who'd otherwise take you as you are to treat you with disrespect. Understand the differences in those situations and absolutely never trust anyone who's lied about you behind your back again.
</li><li>While other people's <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Form-an-Opinion" title="Form an Opinion">opinions</a> and ideas have their place in your life, don't set your life according to them. Listen and take on board what works for you but only internalize that which you believe improves you or works for because you have made a choice for yourself.
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</li><li> <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Set-Goals" title="Set Goals">Set goals</a> and work toward them. They don't have to be pie-in-the-sky, they can just be gradual improvements. You could decide to learn to play the guitar, for example. Start by saving up to get a guitar, then learn one chord until you have it perfect, then another, then another. Get guitar books and sheet music from the library learning one song at a time or play by ear. Or learn to draw with art books, a sketchbook and pencils by practicing every day. A different example: you have a B- overall grade point average. Resolve to raise your GPA at least a half grade each semester until you are a B+, then you will renegotiate. Begin to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Study-For-Exams" title="Study For Exams">study harder</a>, join a study group or choose a study partner. As you begin to gain mastery of your schoolwork and see your GPA rise to a B and finally to a B+, you will have a solid sense of accomplishment - and your self-esteem will rise. Both daily success - "I studied tonight" and external success "I'm good enough to play guitar at a party and no one laughed at me" are different types of self esteem.
<ul><li>Judge your goals wisely. Look at your real goals and interests in life. If your long term goal is to become an educated professional or get a free ride scholarship to college, then raising your grades is the first step in a long road to a large personal success. If you're raising your grades from B+ to A+ to please a critical parent that expects perfection, choose a self esteem goal that doesn't rest on their opinion of your success, such as learning to draw, play guitar, build a collection, tell jokes well, skills that will help you relax when you're successful in a high pressure career. You're already living one, something in your life has to be just from the heart. A good goal is something you would enjoy anyway even if no one knew you did it, no one paid for it and no one complimented it. That feeds the soul.
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</li><li> Gain accomplishments and achievements. Study hard. Take that B+ and turn it into Honors by keeping it as a personal subject of study for one to three years. Or play hard at a <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Dedicated-Athlete" title="Be a Dedicated Athlete">sport</a>. Even if you are only average, the more you practice, the better you will get, and that's an achievement of its own. Choose something to excel at, choose a goal, and work hard toward it until you achieve - even working toward bettering yourself for the sake of doing it is a worthy pursuit.
<ul><li>Play to your strengths. If you run fast and aren't bulky or strong, maybe track is a better sport than football. If you're creative and dramatic, consider drama and audition for school plays. If you're great at math and hate slippery literature and arts subjects, seek out the Astronomy Club or Chess Club and build your skills in the areas that come easiest. Strengthen your native talents. It's good to have at least one goal like this that comes from exactly who you are and what you do best.
</li><li>It's also good to set goals that shore up your weaknesses. If you're brilliant in math and computer science, barely snagging D minus in English and afraid to talk to girls, setting the goals of getting your English grade up to a B minus and overcoming shyness are good for self esteem too. Someone else may not think of a C minus as a good grade in English, but when you raised it from a D minus and risked flunking every semester that is an important achievement, perhaps more difficult than pushing B minus to B plus.
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</li><li> Value noble pursuits. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Successful-Academic" title="Be a Successful Academic">Academics</a>, the arts and sports are time-honored traditional pursuits which can bring out the best in a person by testing intellectual and physical limits, and fostering individual and team efforts. You could write a novel, write an original piece of music, create a graphic novel or paint well enough to gain honors. Look at ways in which these noble pursuits can be carried on through life beyond school.
</li><li> Value harmless, self-rewarding pursuits. Knitting, gardening, quilting, woodworking, decorative painting, collecting, model building, fandom (music, sports, television, movie), fashion, Do It Yourself, trivia, games, reading are all things that harm no one and give self esteem by your competence in them. They also bring social support from others who share your passion. It doesn't need to be a high and noble pursuit to be a goal that matters to you and it doesn't have to earn you a living if it gives you lifelong pleasure and relaxation. Many of the arts and sciences can also fall into this category even if you don't follow a career in them or pursue them to professional level - rocketry clubs, community theater, open mike comedy or music and leisure painting are all still worthwhile even if you choose to remain amateur and do these things only because you love them. They will also give you a good basis for building a new social life anytime you relocate. If there isn't a club for it in your new location you can found one and others will be glad you did.
</li><li> Help someone. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Volunteer" title="Volunteer">Volunteer</a> at a retirement home or a homeless shelter. Get involved with your church in a ministry to the sick or the poor. Donate your time and service to a humane animal shelter. Be a Big Brother or Big Sister. Nothing is more rewarding than offering your time and talent to help others in need. Getting outside your own head and your normal circle of influence can be eye opening and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Humble" title="Be Humble">humbling</a>.
</li><li> Practice humility. No one was ever a greater public servant than Mother Teresa, she helped the poor, the sick and the dying, and never turned anyone away. Yet Mother Teresa was a strong, noble soul who knew that if she did not help these people, perhaps no one would. She fought a lifetime battle with chronic depression and won, she never quit or surrendered to it. She saw the value in each individual and never allowed herself to despair that her life's works might not change the world for millions - much of the time, she worked to relieve one soul's suffering at a time. That's real self-esteem: "I am only one person, but I can help these people." That's knowing and believing in the power of One Person to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Difference-in-This-World-and-Be-the-Girl-Everyone-Looks-Up-To" title="Make a Difference in This World and Be the Girl Everyone Looks Up To">make a real difference</a>. And making that difference one person at a time may be a humble goal, but it is a worthy one.
</li><li> Pass your skills and talents on to someone. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Teach" title="Teach">Teaching</a> someone your specialty will show you how much you really do know and have to offer. As you help a novice learn the skills you have honed, you will feel their admiration and respect for your prowess. In turn, you will be helping another develop those same skills, so that they may be passed on again.
</li><li> Allow children to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Build-a-Child%27s-Self-Esteem" title="Build a Child's Self Esteem">build self-esteem</a> honestly. Just because they're kids doesn't mean they're stupid - do you really think they don't know you <i>let</i> them win? Self-esteem isn't built by being handed a win. It's built by <i>actually winning.</i> Play a game with with your kid until he or she masters it - it can be anything: <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Play-Dominoes" title="Play Dominoes">Dominoes</a>, Scrabble, Pokemon, a video game, Hearts - and whatever you do, do <i>not</i> play down to him or her. When you win, celebrate. Don't belittle him or call him a loser, just say, "Yay, I win!" And then say, "Let's see, did you make any mistakes? Maybe you didn't - maybe it was just a bad draw. Let's look at your game and see where it could improve." Help him, show him how to improve, and play again. Eventually, he or she <i>will</i> beat you. When she/he does, tell him or her to stand up on the table and do a victory dance. Look at her or his face. See how your child feels when he/she <i>knows</i> he/she earned this win, fair and square, and on his or her own? It's a huge difference, because it tells the child they have the power to win, if he/she sticks with something and tries hard. It can set the tone for the way she or he goes at things the rest of her or his life. <i>Don't "let" them win.</i> By doing so you rob him of the chance to <i>earn</i> a win honestly.
<ul><li>Children understand the difference between being handed a win because you love them and winning because they won in a competitive situation. Don't be surprised if a child hands you a win, ask yourself if you've been a sore loser if that happens.
</li><li>Encourage non-competitive activities and praise every step on the way to success rather than expecting perfection. It's good to have at least one goal that can only rest on comparing with your own previous performance, to keep from getting so wound up in pressure to succeed that any failure is catastrophic.
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<ul><li>Discover the realistic limitations to your behavior and abilities. Allow yourself the mobility between success and failure. Forgiveness includes yourself.
</li><li>Nobody can give you self-esteem. You have to earn it yourself.
</li><li>Fandom, whether it's television, sports, movies, music, is a popular and effective type of goal and activity. Winning trivia contests in something you spend your free time enjoying is a mildly competitive activity that does build self esteem and strengthen memory in general. Don't forget that less official activities and pursuits are often less dependent on having school facilities and resources to pursue. Strong interests can also help you build and keep an active social life once school ends, even if you relocate for reasons of work. There will be other fans of your favorite music, shows, movies and sports in your new location too.
</li><li>Believe that you can make a difference, one person or task at a time. Over time, as your efforts bear fruit, you will feel your inner sense of satisfaction at your accomplishments.
</li><li>Have a sense of humor - especially about yourself. Don't take yourself too seriously, keep things in perspective.
</li><li>Choosing at least one non-competitive activity is important to have something that doesn't rest on other people's opinions and is easy to measure only against your own past progress. If you want to read everything Dickens wrote, that's a goal that you can complete and it won't have any bearing on anyone's reaction except other Dickens fans. Competing, even if you don't win, can become exciting and does help you sharpen your skills - thereby building your estimation of yourself. In competitive activities, choose those you're reasonably good at or capable of doing well if you apply yourself. Beating your head on brick walls by trying to compete in something where you lack the basic capacity to do it well enough to succeed does not build self esteem, only frustration. A heavy, large youth can try to become strong and fit, lose some weight and try out for football but is unlikely with that build to become a track star.
</li><li>Competition in sports and similar activities is healthy when it's fair, within your abilities and played with real enjoyment and respect for others. Competition in which you compare yourself negatively with others and try to be "better" than them is not. You can never know what life is really like for other people. Much of it doesn't show, so setting your standards by other people's clothes, belongings, and rank at the office will simply demoralize you and lower your self-esteem. Someone with thousands of dollars in expensive clothes and electronics may be the one getting bought off by parents who'd rather get a root canal than spend an hour with their kid.
</li><li>Keep a written record of your progress toward your goal, whether that's your scores in sports practice, hours studied, dating your sketches, writing out what chords you learned or gaining or losing weight in pounds. Daily small successes are one of the best ways to build self esteem. It's not the state championship that gives you the strength to weather adversity later on, it was all the practice that helped you get on the team in the first place and all the practice before the first game, every one of those games along the way.
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<ul><li>Avoid illegal and self destructive goals. Whoever drank the most beer without puking is likely to be an alcoholic, they gain the most alcohol tolerance. Joining a gang may get you a future where prison is your higher education and you can't step back out into a different life. Sex with as many partners as you can get will eventually lead to venereal disease instead of a deep relationship with someone who'll love you for life and treat you well.
</li><li>Think of the long term as well as the short term. Sports that aren't easily available in adult life or peak when you're young are great if you're so good that you'll become professional. For many they lead to sitting on a couch at forty remembering glory days instead of looking forward to new triumphs at the bowling alley or racquetball court. A consistently high GPA can lead to full free-ride scholarships, but if your self esteem rests on getting high grades, graduation from college can become a huge shock. Out in the working world, there are no external grades to measure your success by, so be sure at least some of your goals are timeless and not dependent on school facilities.
</li><li>Avoid the temptation to turn self-esteem into conceit and arrogance. People with good self-esteem are very attractive. Arrogant louts aren't.
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</p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4530408514621058583.post-70298513040174393952013-03-05T14:36:00.001-08:002013-03-05T14:36:48.660-08:00How to Help Someone With Low Self Esteem<h1 style='margin-bottom: 0px;'><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Help-Someone-With-Low-Self-Esteem">How to Help Someone With Low Self Esteem</a></h1>
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Whether it's your friend or the love of your life, all people like to have high self esteem. However, everyone has their inner weaknesses, as well.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li>Compliment them often. When they do or say something sweet, considerate, sincere, funny, whatever, take it graciously and say it was a nice gesture or they are funny, whatever is the appropriate response.
</li><li> Be sincere. Although we as humans can't always handle the truth, it usually is the thing that we must hear. If the person asks you a question, answer it honestly and nicely without hurting their feelings or overdoing it. Even if it may be a little harsh, say it as kindly as possible.
</li><li> Make sure you are slow to anger. It is easy to get annoyed with a person who is constancy putting themselves down but they are at a very fragile position right now and getting mad at them will just aggravate the situation. If you attack them or get mad they will feel like you hate them and become even worse.
</li><li> Be aware of their feelings. When people see sad people they tend to avoid them or pretend like they don't exist so that they won't bring them down. This, however, is the opposite of what needs to be done. The person with low self esteem needs to know that they care about them because they probably feel like no one does. Lets say you saw him/her on the bench, crying. You walk over and ask whats wrong, and they say go away. DO NOT GO AWAY! This will make them feel worse. Sit next to them and comfort them, even if they do not say what is making them feel bad.
</li><li> Find out what they are struggling with. It could be looks, confidence, social fear, bullying, not fitting in, feeling lonely, or many other reasons that they feel inferior. Find out why they feel as they do, what they actually feel, and what they actually want.
</li><li> Try to include them. When you are having a party, invite them, when they are trying to come in a conversation, include them, when they are scared to meet someone, introduce them. Most people with low self esteem feel as though no one likes them or some variation on that theme. If you take the time to let them be included and find out that some people genuinely do like them, they will gain confidence.
</li><li> Realise that they may be a tad bitter. And take that with a grain of salt. When people like these have taken an emotional beating from themselves and the people around them they might not be nice all of the time. You have to be compassionate and gentle with them as most of these people are used to being put down all of the time and so are generally on the defensive.
</li><li> Be careful with what you say. People with low self esteem are very sensitive and vulnerable in the areas that they are insecure. Where one person might shrug a side remark off, a person with low self esteem might internalize it and crumble from the inside. Just as you wouldn't expect a baby to 'jog off' a bruise or injury, you can't expect a person with low self esteem to just shrug off a nasty comment or a taunting joke.
</li><li> Don't baby them. There is a fine line between being nice and laying it on too thick. If you are too nice all the time they will either get offended, creeped out, or not be able to handle being without you. Be sure to be nice but just take it easy.
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<a name="Warnings"></a><h2> Warnings </h2>
<ul><li>Don't let them think you are into them. If they like you, too, and they think you like them, they will just have lower self-esteem when they find out you don't.
</li><li>Don't make jokes that could be taken offensively. It could hurt more than have the desired effect of making them laugh. They may even laugh and cover it up making it worse.
</li><li>Don't lie to make them feel better. It will come back to haunt you.
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</p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4530408514621058583.post-29381742355165135012013-03-04T09:04:00.001-08:002013-03-04T09:04:42.821-08:00How to Respect Yourself<h1 style='margin-bottom: 0px;'><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Respect-Yourself">How to Respect Yourself</a></h1>
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A lack of self-respect can prevent you from fulfilling your potential and developing healthy relationships that don’t devolve into power struggles. Take the following steps to learn how to respect yourself.
<a name="Steps"></a><h2> Steps </h2>
<ol><li> Think about what it means to respect someone. The qualities that we respect vary from person to person, and the way we express it varies from culture to culture. Generally, we respect people who have more experience and are more accomplished than ourselves. But there is also a basic level of respect that most people will agree is a right, and does not need to be earned. Consider what that kind of respect (which we'll refer to as <i>basic respect</i>) entails. Here are some widely agreed upon signals of respect:
<ul><li> You don't steal from, harm, or insult them.
</li><li> You are honest with them.
</li><li> You listen to what they say, consider their opinion, and avoid interrupting them.
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</li><li> Practice basic respect towards yourself. We often do things to ourselves that we would never dream of doing to someone we care about. (When’s the last time you called a friend ugly, told them they weren’t good enough, discouraged them from following their dreams, or sabotaged their happiness?) Whatever you believe to be respect, apply it to yourself. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Cutting-Yourself" title="Stop Cutting Yourself">Don't harm yourself.</a> Don't insult yourself. Don't steal from yourself (like recklessly putting everything on credit; you're essentially taking money from your future self, because you'll have to pay up eventually). <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Honest" title="Be Honest">Be honest with yourself</a>. Develop your own opinions (see <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Skeptic" title="Be a Skeptic">How to Be a Skeptic</a> and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Think-for-Yourself" title="Think for Yourself">How to Think for Yourself</a>) and don’t be afraid to stand by them.
</li><li> Recognize when people disrespect you and take steps to stop it. A person with self respect doesn't allow others to treat them badly, and would rather not associate with someone who is disrespectful. This might seem obvious, but there are many times when we accept being treated badly (in both big and small ways) because we believe the person doesn't know any better, or because we're not willing to let that person go, or because we're too down on ourselves to believe we deserve better. When someone doesn't give you basic respect, you need to be able to say, in one way or another, "You just disrespected me and that's not acceptable to me. If you don't respect me, I won't spend time with you anymore." Can you say that, and mean it? Can you turn your back on someone who's clearly shown that they don't respect you? Once you do, you'll feel your sense of self-respect go up.
<ul><li> <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Recognize-a-Manipulative-or-Controlling-Relationship" title="Recognize a Manipulative or Controlling Relationship">How to Recognize a Manipulative or Controlling Relationship</a> - It can be hard to see when a person close to us is being disrespectful, especially if they're subtle and sneaky and it's been going on for a long time.
</li><li> <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Being-Needy" title="Stop Being Needy">How to Stop Being Needy</a> - Many times in dating or friendships we let people walk all over us because we feel needy.
</li><li> <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Being-a-People-Pleaser" title="Stop Being a People Pleaser">How to Stop Being a People Pleaser</a> - Paying attention to everyone else's needs but your own is a classic sign of low self-respect.
</li><li> <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Practice-Nonviolent-Communication" title="Practice Nonviolent Communication">How to Practice Nonviolent Communication</a> - When you do confront someone about their disrespectful behavior, try to stick to these communication guidelines.
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</li><li> <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Live-a-Long-Life" title="Live a Long Life">Take care of your body.</a> A person who neglects their health fails to see how lucky they are to be alive. When you make an effort to keep your body in good working order, you'll not only feel better physically, but you'll also feel a sense of pride. Respecting your body also means not insulting it for what it is, naturally. Make an effort to <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Fit" title="Get Fit">get fit</a> and <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Keep-Healthy" title="Keep Healthy">stay healthy</a>, but don't trash yourself over the things you can't control, like your proportions. Focus on the things you can change and improve, and do it because it feels good, not because you think you're not "good enough" the way you are.
</li><li> Get to know yourself. The more you understand about yourself, the more you'll see and appreciate how unique you really are, and the more you'll respect yourself. Discover your <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Good" title="Be Good">principles</a>, personality, and talents. Stop pandering to other people's approval and start developing your own standards. Someone else might respect a fancy title, but you might respect creativity. Whose opinion matters more, in this case?
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<a name="Tips"></a><h2> Tips </h2>
<ul><li>The idea of self-respect is very closely related to self-confidence, but respect is more about what you do whereas confidence is about how you feel. (Of course, the two go hand-in-hand.)
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It is important to understand, when born, most of us will have high self esteem. This is influenced as we grow, by teachers, parents and other friends or relatives. Many have low self esteem due to one of these influencing personalities. With low esteem, we can never live life to their fullest, or enjoy life. Even doing our daily routine, relationships, or achieving goals can become a problem with reduced self esteem.</div>
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<strong>Here are few tips to improve self esteem.</strong></div>
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Stay positive and upbeat: Thinking you are not capable, or you are not worthy are signs of having low self esteem. Have a positive outlook and believe yourself.</div>
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Cherish your every achievement and reward yourself for them.</div>
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Much like how you shouldn't brag about yourself, you shouldn't decline appreciation and honor. You are honored and appreciated, because you are worth it! Accept it gracefully.</div>
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Never think about your problems and brood over your past. Move on and have a positive outlook, so you can change your future.</div>
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Understand your powers and limitations. It is good to be positive, but you should know where you stand in life. Never be over ambitious or think about things that aren't viable and be depressed over it. Use your powers and win over your limitations!</div>
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Challenge yourself every now and then. Change is one thing that's constant and when you adapt yourself to different situations, you can become a better person. This way, you can also know your hidden potentials.</div>
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Don't compare yourself with anyone, who above or below you! You are what you are! There's no photocopy of you. Remember, you are unique and special. By comparing, you can undermine yourself. You might not be the best rapper, but you will probably be good at something else. So don't compare yourself with others.</div>
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Stay motivated at all times. Reading inspirational thoughts, affirmations, quotes on self esteem and everything related, can keep you upbeat and motivated.</div>
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Socialize and never restrict yourself to a cage! You need to mingle with others, get out of your room or home and talk to people you know and know those you don't! Socializing, is one way to improve your self esteem.</div>
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<span style="line-height: 1.5em;">Forgive your mistakes and work towards being a better person. No one is perfect! Instead, learn from your mistakes.</span></div>
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Be confident, never over confident. Believe in yourself and strive to better yourself every moment. Never put yourself down, for anything or anyone!</div>
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Remember to have fun! Life is short, so make the most of it when you can. It is never wrong to have fun! Enjoy life and be happy!</div>
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Our self esteem is instilled in us during our youth. Being constantly criticized by family, friends, and society tends to slowly strip us of our feelings of self worth. Our low self esteem strips us of our <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence" title="Build Self Confidence">self confidence</a> to make even the smallest of decisions. <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Improve-Your-Self-Esteem" class="mw-redirect" title="Improve Your Self Esteem">Improving your self esteem</a> increases your confidence and is a first step towards finding happiness and a better life. Read on to find out how!
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<a name="Work_on_Improving_Yourself"></a> Work on Improving Yourself
<ol><li>Dress nicely. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don't look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. This doesn't mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. Expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Find things that you like and in return, you will like the way you look.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 1.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-1.jpg"></a>
</li><li>Have good hygiene. Take care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes and brushing your teeth twice a day.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 2.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-2.jpg"></a>
</li><li>Practice good posture. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They often are unenthusiastic and don't consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You'll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 3.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-3.jpg"></a>
</li><li>Work out regularly. Physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure and unattractive. By working out, you improve your physical appearance and do something constructive with your time. If you work out in the morning, it also creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 4.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-4.jpg"></a>
</li><li>Give back to others. Volunteer someplace in your community. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase your self esteem.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 5.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-5.jpg"></a>
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<a name="Make_Yourself_Stand_Out"></a> Make Yourself Stand Out
<ol><li>Compliment other people. Break the cycle of negativity by getting in the habit of praising other people. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
</li><li>Sit in the front row. Most people prefer the back of a classroom or office because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 7.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-7.jpg"></a>
</li><li>Speak up. Many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them or think of them negatively. The simple fact is that these are fears everyone experiences. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts and recognized as a leader by your peers.
</li><li>Walk faster. You don't have to power walk at all times, but people with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go and things to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by doing this because you will look and feel more important.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 9.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-9.jpg"></a>
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<a name="Remove_Your_Negative_Self-Esteem"></a> Remove Your Negative Self-Esteem
<ol><li>Start from within. Ignore any and all destructive criticism or insults, including any from your past. Your opinion of yourself is the most important opinion of all, because you know yourself better than anyone else. Many of us have been hurt by others at some time. It is crucial not to internalize that abuse and let them continue to hurt us, because that means the other person wins. If we let go of the past, ignore hurtful negativity and make ourselves happy, then <i>we</i> win.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 10.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-10.jpg"></a>
</li><li>Create daily affirmations. Tell yourself that you are a wonderful person who deserves to be happy. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. If you've made mistakes that prevent you from believing that you deserve to be happy, take measures to relieve that guilt. Apologize to people you may have hurt (if possible), learn from those mistakes and forgive yourself.
</li><li>Start with small steps to gain confidence. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.
<ul><li>For example, if purchasing jeans makes you anxious because of the plethora of brands, colors, and styles, then just go with your instincts. Trust yourself and go with whatever feels right to you. And if you really feel you made a wrong decision in retrospect, the situation can be easily rectified by exchanging the jeans.
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</li><li>Don't always try to please others. It is great to be considerate of others, but think before sacrificing your own needs to please them. Bending over backwards for strangers, mere acquaintances or people you don't trust may leave you with the short end of the stick. In short, don't allow yourself to be used.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 13.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-13.jpg"></a>
</li><li>Be your own person. Don't try to copy anyone else. You will be at your best when you are being yourself because of your uniqueness. Strive to be your best and do not criticize yourself if you fall short of your expectations.
</li><li>Avoid negative people. People who have a negative attitude which may rub off on you are not good for you. If you're timid, loud and aggressive people are probably not good for you, and vice versa. Whatever you do, do not compare yourself to others. Just be the best that you can be.
</li><li>Face your fears and learn from your failures. We only fail when we do not make the best out of adversity. When something doesn't go the way we would like it to, there is something to be learned from that, which can be applied next time you are in a similar situation. Get up and try again.
</li><li>Stop the negative thoughts. Try positive thinking on for size. The term “self-fulfilling prophecy” in relation to self-esteem basically states that whatever you believe about yourself, whether it be perfect or totally off base, becomes true. If you constantly tell yourself you are stupid or that you will never achieve success, you will in turn act as such. When negative thoughts come into your mind, speak to them. Say "Stop" or "No," and instantly replace that negative thought with a positive one. Using this method will help you to break the habit of repeatedly giving yourself negative messages. Instead, make a habit out of saying positive things about yourself and to yourself, and use the self-fulfilling prophecy to your advantage.
</li><li>Don't worry about being "perfect." Aiming for perfection in life is a lost cause because the term means different things to different people. Nobody is perfect in the eyes of everyone else. Instead, seek to achieve goals.
</li><li> Learn to appreciate yourself. Everyone has strengths, weaknesses, habits, and principles that define who you are and can make you distinctive. Spend more time focusing on the qualities about yourself that you like and less on the ones that you dislike. You can better accomplish this by taking up hobbies and projects that you can do which will make use of your strengths. Additionally, by starting on some projects that emphasize your good traits, it will keep you busy so you will end up spending less time thinking about your weaknesses.<a class="image" title="Develop Self Esteem Step 19.jpg" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Develop-Self-Esteem-Step-19.jpg"></a>
</li><li> Reward yourself when you succeed. Treat yourself to something nice Bask in the glow of your successes. Believe in yourself completely and others will also believe and trust in you.
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This video shows you how to build your self-esteem.
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<ul><li>Don't feel like you are not good enough because you haven't been treated the way that you should be. Overcoming that is a strength in itself and something to admire.
</li><li>Not all decisions may turn out to be right ones. Just keep in mind that right or wrong, you are the one who makes the decisions in your life. Because you are responsible for your choices, you have the power to change your situation. Do not let your confidence disappear because you made one wrong choice.
</li><li>Your inner strength will enable you to reach your goals in life. If you fall down, pick yourself up and try again.
</li><li>Smile at yourself in the mirror every day and at least TRY to smile at others.
</li><li>Everyone goes through the phases of feeling low or high, i.e. low or high self esteem. This happens especially if you judge yourself by your successes or failures. If you learn to estimate yourself by the nature of actions (e.g. their benefit to the society or to yourself), then you are likely to develop high self esteem without any disrespect or bitterness about others.
</li><li>The opposite feeling of self-esteem is anxiety. Feeling anxious is not a good nor a bad feeling. It's just a mechanism of yourself telling you that there's something wrong and you need to act upon it. Anxiety is the fuel to responding to what is wrong and thus developing self esteem.
</li><li>Don't let magazine ads and other media outlets try to take away your self confidence for marketing purposes. Don't let people who don't know you tell you how to feel or what to strive for. Choose your own path.
</li><li>Be careful not to act as though you are better than others. Even if you are, true self confidence leads you down the path of modesty and respect for others. Your self-esteem is something that fills you up and helps light your way through life. Pomp, conceit, inability to compromise and disrespect for the self-esteem of others are merely masks for inner insecurity and weakness. People who try to hide behind these aren't fooling anyone.
</li><li>As your self confidence builds, you will feel better about yourself, and your self esteem will grow from the inside out.
</li><li>Once you convince your subconscious the way you want to be, you will find that you will start to become far more confident and life will be the way you want it.
</li><li>Tell yourself you are confident and outgoing even if you don't feel that way. Your feelings and beliefs all come from the thoughts you think so if you believe you are confident and outgoing you will be. Think as though you don't even know what it's like to have low self-esteem.
</li><li>A good trick to starting to build self-confidence is to pick something about yourself that you do like (EVERYONE has as least one aspect about them that they like) and create a phrase: "I'm (aspect) and I'm awesome!" Then pick something that you want to improve: "I'm going to ________ and life will rock even more because ______!" Pick a time to repeat this mantra, like every time you brush your teeth or rub your eyes. Examples: "I'm a good artist! I'm going to be less shy and life will rock even more because more people will see my art!" "I'm clever! I am going to think things out more to solve minor problems around me. Life is in my control!"
</li><li>Make sure your self talk is positive at all times. Tell yourself how great you are or how good you look today. Make being positive your natural state of being.
</li><li>Look at yourself in the mirror every day. Try to find something to admire about yourself in your looks, accomplishments and achievements.
</li><li>Listen to a song that suits your mood. There is a song for almost everything. When you jam to a favorite tune that you can relate to, it gives you confidence.
</li><li>The most important thing of all is that you have to believe in yourself. If you believe you can, then you will be able to.
</li><li>Be assertive. Boosting your self-esteem is all about getting what you need/want. Do things for your own sake. Remember, you must help yourself first before you can help others.
</li><li>Visualize yourself being surrounded by people who are patting you on the back or shaking your hand, or standing and clapping for you. Visualization is a very powerful tool to use.
</li><li> Always smile even if you aren't in the mood to.
</li><li> Don't pay attention to people who think that they're better than you.
</li><li> When you get anxious about the future, it is better not to think about it. The more you think about it the more anxious you'll get. Of course its important to think about what lies ahead, too, but if you only look at what's down the road, you'll get tangled by the "laundry" by your feet and fall, wont you?You see, its also important to think about what you can do now. What you can do today, and if you keep washing things one at a time, you'll be done before you know it. Sometimes the anxiety will start to well up, but when it does... take a little break. Read a book, watch TV,spend time with friends.
</li><li> Just be yourself. Go at your own pace. You'll fit in just fine.
</li><li> "No one really starts out kind. All we know how to do at first is want. We want food, we want attention...it's just natural survival instinct, I guess...but kindness is something that we all have to learn as we go. It's something that grows and develops slowly over time...the same way our bodies do.
</li><li> True kindness isn't something we're born with. It's something we have to work at. Not everyone has it. But I think everyone has the potential. Sometimes you just have to look really close before you can tell it's there.
</li><li> Maybe the reason you don't see it is that it's stuck to your back. What I mean is, a person's admiral qualities - they're just like, say, a pickled plum on a rice ball. In other words the person's the rice ball and the plum's stuck to their back. So, all over the world you can have rice balls made with all sorts of wonderful ingredients, all different flavors and shapes and colors, but since they'd be stuck in the middle of everyone's back, someone could have a plum and not even know it. They'd look at themselves and think "I'm so plain, nothing but white rice," even though it isn't true because, turn them around and, sure enough, there it is. There's the plum. So if someone is jealous of somebody else, well, then, it's probably because it's easier to see the plum on someone else's back than it is on your own. Yup. I can see it. I can see it very clearly,you don't know it but you have a great big plum on your back.
</li><li> Don't give up!
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<a name="Warnings"></a><h2> Warnings</h2>
<ul><li>Consistently low self esteem could be a sign of depression. Talk with your doctor and review all available options if you think this might be the case.
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What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. People often interchange the word Self-Esteem with Self-Confidence. Self-Confidence is how you feel about your abilities to do something.</div>
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Low self-esteem is not uncommon with most women I work with. I often hear "I'm not good enough" or "I'm not worth it". This often comes from years of being belittled by an ex-spouse, family members, friends or even a boss. This defeating behavior becomes ingrained in you and you begin to own that negative viewpoint of yourself.</div>
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So, what do you do if you have low self-esteem?</div>
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Instead of looking at the glass as half-empty; take a look at it being half-full. What are you good at?</div>
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I had low self-esteem when I left my marriage. I felt totally inadequate at managing my life as a single divorced mother. However, I could point to other areas of my life where I shined. I am an excellent cook, excel in my career and I'm a loving mother. In other words, I had self-confidence in certain areas of my life.</div>
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I find amusement today in the fact that when I first left my marriage, I was responsible for a multi-million dollar budget at my job. But, I was fearful of handling my personal finances on my own. The skill set of living with your budget is the same; but I had no confidence in my ability to apply this in my personal life.</div>
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For me, it took someone to point out that I'm already doing this skill; I need to just apply the same principles to how I manage actual spend to budgets at work to what I do at home. From this experience, I learned when I'm facing a daunting task I need to look at the other areas of my life that utilize a similar skill set or experience and apply what I learned.</div>
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But what do you do if you have no experience to draw upon.</div>
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You ask for assistance from someone who possesses the skill set you need to learn. After the divorce, I moved into a townhouse. When I scrapped up enough money, I purchased some new light fixtures. I knew I needed to hire an electrician for some of the bigger pieces; but asked a girlfriend who does all of her own home repairs to assist me with installing hallway lights.</div>
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I was like a newborn baby absorbing all this information about the new world of electricity. Prevention of harm by turning off circuit breakers to understanding why there are 3 wires and how to install. It was an amazing learning experience. I felt good to learn a new skill and gave me the confidence that I could do other minor home repairs.</div>
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I discovered that I feel a great sense of accomplishment when I can overcome what I fear; it builds my self-confidence. As my self-confidence grows, I feel better about myself. When I feel better about myself my self-esteem grows.</div>
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